Should I do a First Look?
"Should we do a first look?"
For some couples, this is one of the toughest questions to answer. Because it's a fairly new concept, it usually isn't what a bride has been envisioning when she thinks of her wedding day. You most likely picture your fiance seeing you at the other end of the aisle, which is totally fine! That's how bride and grooms have done it for years and years! As weddings are evolving and becoming the full-on productions that they are, the idea of doing a First Look has been introduced in weddings today. Videographers and photographers generally like when their couples do a first look because they're able to control the setting and timing and make sure they capture it perfectly. It also effects the day's schedule and the amount of time you have for photos. But there's no right or wrong answer, just what's right for the two of you! We'll list the pros and cons below to help you make the best decision for you:
More time for photos- You will have more time for photos of just the two of you since you won't be trying to squeeze them all in, along with the family photos and bridal party photos, during the cocktail hour. And the photos of the two of you are the most important photos so you will want to make sure you have enough time to get quality photos. *Note when the sun will set on your wedding day. If the sun sets at 5 o'clock and you have a 4 o'clock ceremony time, you most likely won't have enough light for many photos after the ceremony!
Less wait time for guests during cocktail hour- Because you will have already gotten a majority of your photos done before the ceremony, you can have a shorter cocktail hour, allowing your guests to get to dinner quicker (fed guests = happy guests!)
Eliminate the need for heavy hor d'oeuvres- If you're only having a 20 or 30 minute cocktail "hour", you can save money because you won't need as much (or maybe any, depending on your budget) food during that time in between the ceremony and reception
Lessen nerves- If you get easily nauseous, doing a first look will help alleviate those nerves for both of you
You get to keep that moment intimate- If you and your fiance are more private, you may prefer to keep this special moment to yourselves
This is what we've heard from couples who decided to do a first look:
It can actually enhance the ceremony! When you see each other at the end of the aisle, you're still thinking "OMG I can't believe I'm about to marry this person!", you're just thinking that without the queezy stomach. Because you aren't worried about whether you're going to throw up or not, you're able to focus on the romance of it all!
The possibility it takes away from the moment your fiance sees you walking down the aisle. If you really feel like it will take away from that moment , don't do it. If you have truly been imagining your fiance seeing your for the first time at the altar and you truly can't imagine it being anywhere else on your venue, then stick to that!
You get to share the moment with everyone at your wedding- If you and your fiance are open people and want to include all of your friends and family in this special moment, not doing a first look may the best option for you! Everyone will get to witness that special moment with the two of you, which is very special for them!
We hope this helps you and your fiance decide on what's best for you both!
xoxo, Brette and Christina